Asking For What You Want

By Clay S. Nelson, President - Consulting Services Network LLC


"If there is something you want and you don't have it, ask for it" is much like the Nike slogan, "Just Do It"for many both are much easier said than done. Why is that?

Although there is no doubt a great deal of psychology that could go into answering "why", it mostly boils down to fear. It is our fear of rejection or fear of not looking good or fear of being told "no" that ultimately stops us from getting what we want.
So whom do you have to be to ask for what you want in every aspect of your life, at all times?

  • Committed. Those who are totally committed to getting what they want often do so without even knowing for sure how to get it done. What they do know is that they will do whatever it takes, regardless of their fears, to accomplish whatever it is they are committed too.

  • Clear. This refers to being both clear in your communication of what you are asking for and clear in that which you are asking for is what you really want. How many times have you left someone or been left yourself going, "I don't have a clue what it is he/she is asking for"? If we do not effectively communicate our wants and needs, what makes us think we are going to get it? In order to effectively ask and receive what you want, one also has to be clear in regard to what it is they are asking for. Have you ever known yourself or someone else to go after something that in their hearts they did not really want? Take a look I guarantee that if there is something you want deep down, no kidding, there is nothing that can stop you from getting it.

  • Unstoppable. Have you ever noticed the unfaltering tenacity of a child? It is as children that most adults were at their peak of being unstoppable. The reason is that children don't know that they can't do something; children have no fear of anything until they have reason to. It isn't until they fall off the top of a bunk bed, are bitten by a dog or are made to feel silly for asking for what they want/need, that they fear it. So when a fearless, unstoppable child asks for what they want and they are told "no", they don't take it personally, as adults do, unless it is meant that way. They simply find another way of asking until they get what they want.

Remember, you are the only person who has a say in how your life turns out. So as you take a look at your life and find what you want missing... It is because you don't truly want it!

Clay S. Nelson, the founder of Consulting Services Network LLC, and his team are committed to putting fun, family and financial freedom into everyones business and personallives. With over two decades of experience coaching business leaders in creating life balance, building teams, and writing plans, their programs are designed to alter the culturesof companies and families. They make a powerful and lasting difference with each person they meet, every group they speak with, and with every client they serve.

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